Do you feel satisfied after a job well done without someone else commending you for it? Do you labor hard to be someone others want you to be? Do you have trouble saying “no” to people? It is a pitiable condition. The irony is that this handicap is often a ‘gift’ from parents and caretakers wanting to coax their wards in developing ‘their way’. As a child you often hear, “Good boy!” or “Good girl!” Experts say that these comments inflict deep wounds – I call it the ‘good boy/girl syndrome.’ The wounds are not physically visible but have long lasting impact on their personalities, their resilience, and their motivation to do good – the very thing that we attempt to invoke in our children by making these comments.