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The right fit

The term “right fit” is often used by private schools, but what does it mean? Each school has its own mission, educational philosophy, identity, history, and culture. Schools want students who will fit in their unique environment. The most important question is whether a student is admissions‑appropriate: Can the student handle the academic, athletic, and extracurricular programs? Would the student be a good culture fit? Do they demonstrate the appropriate level of maturity?

The right fit also applies to whether the student actually wants to attend the school. Before becoming an admissions strategist, I worked in institutional advancement at St. George’s School in Montreal. One of my roles was an admissions and scholarship interviewer. I recall a Grade 6 applicant who, when asked why he wanted to attend, scowled and said, “They made me!” Private schools want students who genuinely want to be there — honesty can be striking.

Bumpy, not well‑rounded

Many schools seek “well‑rounded” students — those who excel in academics, athletics, arts, and extracurriculars. But if all applicants are well‑rounded, they may blend together. A unique talent — great athlete, chess player, artist, or musician — can differentiate your child. Schools are often more interested in “bumpy” kids with distinctive strengths than uniformly well-rounded applicants.

How does the whole family factor into admissions?

Parents play a significant role in admissions. Many private schools interview parents to understand their involvement, alignment with the school’s philosophy, and motivation. Being “on the same team” as the school is crucial for your child’s success.

At St. George’s, I often heard parents say, “It’s the best,” or “I want my kid to go to Harvard.” Schools don’t respond well to this because it shows a lack of alignment with their educational philosophy, focuses on prestige over fit, and uses the school as a stepping stone rather than a partner in education.

What do schools expect in terms of parent involvement?

Schools want parents engaged beyond concern for their child — active members of the community supporting the school’s mission. This often involves the Three Ts: time, talent, and treasure. Examples include volunteering, attending events, and contributing financially to support resources and programming.

The hidden agenda

Beyond academics and engagement, private schools may consider:

• Ethnicity: Schools may strive for diversity. Your competition may include families from the same ethnic group.
• Money: Schools value families’ potential to support advancement/fundraising initiatives, even if not donating upfront.
• Connections: Recommendations from alumni, current parents, or board members can enhance your application.
• Culture: Schools assess whether the family aligns with the school’s culture, including shared values, language, and communication style.

What are the dos and don’ts of preparing for admissions?

• Do prepare: Preparation is crucial. Help your child discover passions and develop strengths. See my other article on preparation.
• Do your homework: Research schools thoroughly — mission, programs, history. Know the basics like the motto and Headmaster’s name.
• Do create a compelling case: Articulate why your family is a good fit, meeting the school’s admission criteria.
• Do be wise in choosing an admissions consultant: Select someone student-centred, focusing on right-fit schools.
• Don’t focus solely on name brand: Prioritize the best school for your child’s success and happiness.
• Don’t underestimate the competition: Competitive schools may have 3–5 applicants per spot. Communicate your child’s unique strengths.
• Don’t despair: If not admitted, continue to build strengths, explore other schools, and consider reapplying. Persistence matters.

Becoming more attractive

By understanding what private schools value, you can position your family as a strong applicant and help your child succeed in admissions.

Bryan Ide, Education Director of Key Admissions, is one of Canada’s most experienced admissions experts. He graduated from St. George’s School and holds a BA from Cornell University and an MA from Columbia University. He has worked in institutional advancement for St. George’s and UBC’s Sauder School of Business and served as an admissions and scholarship interviewer. He is the past chair of Cornell’s alumni admissions committee for British Columbia.